People pay big bucks to join dating services, but there are cheaper ways to make connections. You might start with friends. I was fixed up with Benni on a blind date. We met in February and got married in April, because he had just arrived from Copenhagen and needed a green card. My friends warned me that I was marrying a stranger and after he got his papers I might never see him again.  I felt we were a good fit, and decided to risk it. That was a zillion years ago, and we’re still going strong – although I do have moments when I think my friends were right: I married a stranger.  Maybe all spouses have those moments.

I know one woman who started attending AA meetings in Beverly Hills. She had no addiction problems, but she figured there might be some interesting single men there. I’m not sure I’d recommend that ploy. But there are plenty of classes, church groups, political and charitable organizations, etc. where you can meet people who are not recovering crack heads.

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